The other day, I asked the boy what he wanted to be when he grows up. Without hesitation, his answer came as sure and as swift as most boys when asked this question.
It wasn't some career or super hero that he wanted to be. With the seriousness of an answer considered at length he answered, "I don't want to be anything. That way I can spend more time with my kids."
At the age of five, the boy gets the meaning of life. We are meant to spend time with each other, with those we love.
I'd take the credit for that answer as his parent, but I know better with him. That thought was derived from his own take on the universe and what he finds to already be important at five.
I agree with his thinking. I don't want to be anything either.
Friday, March 25, 2011
When I Grow Up
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Thursday, September 25, 2008
Cinnamon Spice
So, the other weekend, just a little while back, the boy and I were making breakfast. This is our standard Saturday thing. While Momma gets a few more winks, we go downstairs, put on a kettle of water for tea, crack some eggs to mix with milk, and dip some bread to make french toast. I do the dipping, and between each piece, the boy adds the cinnamon, which he only called spice.
Then, this one weekend, I said, "Cinnamon Spicccce." And, the boy, he repeats it. And loves it.
It becomes a catch phrase for a couple days. The second "s" of spice rolling out long and joyous behind the quick collection of syllables in cinnamon.
And then, like other words that have been collected like loose stones, admired for a while, then stored, he tucked them away in his head to make room for new, more amazing words.
But, to prove that he can say the words, he obliged me to say them on camera.
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Friday, January 11, 2008
Scientifically Proven
So, the Momma is sick with the before-mentioned flu, so the inmates are running the asylum at the moment. The boy and I have been doing our best to make her feel good. The boy likes giving Momma hugs but doesn't understand why she won't share food or drinks.
The Momma slept most of the day while the two of us sort of farted around. The boy isn't as sick as his Momma, but he's been a bit more reserved lately and running a low-grade fever, so he's prone to spurts of activity followed by cuddling and naps, which is what brings me to the purpose of this post, the increased gravitational pull on sleepy children.
I'm sure most of you have noticed how the density of your child seems to increase in direct proportion to their level of tiredness. The boy, after playing this morning then winding down, seemed to have gained a good 10 pounds in dead weight before his nap. After his nap, he was lighter, like a marshmallow, not at all the lead brick I put to bed.
I've got some theories on why exactly this happens. They're still in their infancy, so I will save them for later. Suffice it to say that I believe children have a lighter gravitational pull when fully awake so that they can maintain that boundless energy they seem to have in spades, and the reduction in gravitational drag dissipates when they grow sleepy, so they don't just float off with their dreams.
My evidence is mostly circumstantial at this point, but with proper funding, I believe this could be more extensively researched and perhaps proven. All I know is that as a child I felt lighter, as I'm sure you all did as well. Granted, I was a husky kid, but I felt like the wind when I ran, as I'm sure you remember yourselves. The wind in your ear insisted that you were flying when you ran, and when you jumped it was the furthest anyone could jump. The possibilities of childhood would have been impossible if not for the lightness of being that being a child brings.
It's just a hypothesis, but it would be wonderful if true, that we were all lighter once, when young. I guess time would be better spent determining how we could be lighter now.
Wishing you all lives like children.
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Wednesday, January 9, 2008
Hurling, The New Winter Sport
So, I'm sure we're all aware by now because we either got the bug or know someone who did, but the ronovirus, that is sometimes called the "Barfing Flu" around here, has been making its way around. I'll spare you the details of how it pains the individual that gets it, but we have been thanking our lucky stars that we, as a family, have not had to suffer its effects. Each time we've remarked on this fact, we've knocked all the wood that we can find.
Alas, this might have been for nothing because last night, for the first time, ever, the boy threw up. Now, he spit up as a baby; they all do. But, never, in two years, has he been sick in a way that made him throw up. Never. Until, of course, last night.
Now, funny story, which I wasn't actually there for, but thanks the Momma's great descriptive talents, I feel as though I was, so now I can share.
Again, the boy has never thrown up, ever. So, when his mother went into his room this morning and found that he had done that very thing, she was beside herself. Now, for you father's out there I'll explain why in a minute; Mommas, you know why. But first, the setting. The boy is standing in the crib, in the room that smells, well, sickly, and he has obviously been talking cowboy at some point because it is on his sleeve, his face, his hair (lots in his hair), on just about every blanket in the bed (six total), as well as on his stuffed penguin.
Now, that's the setting, now picture the character that is waiting for the Momma. Standing in the bed is not the sickly child you would expect but someone who doesn't seem to understand who made the mess in his bed. Like some drunk in the morning after a bender, our son is standing in his own mess wondering how the hell the penguin did all this. He even hands the penguin over to the Momma as evidence of the fowl play. With a few mumbles past his binky, he has expressed what he thinks should be obvious. The bird, at some point, when the boy was asleep, puked. The fact that the penguin was sporting the evidence himself should be condemnation enough.
Now, I love my wife for being there to handle the particulars, and here boys is the reason for why my wife was beside herself, not because of the mess or any such thing as obvious to men ("thank God I didn't have to clean it up"). She was distraught because he had thrown up alone. She was upset because in his moment of need, she had not been able to console him. And, that, your honor, is why I married the lady. Good Momma.
Anyway, no more puke, or any other bodily expulsions, so that's the end of this story. Stay healthy.
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So...what was in that cool aid??
It's remarkable, to me at least, how subtle the changes are as our children grow. It seems like they move from rolling over to rolling out the door for college in the blink of an eye. It has only been two years since Cole arrived, years more since he was a hope in our heart, and it feels like yesterday and forever all at once, so the moments where he becomes a little closer to the great man he will be are the ones that slip up on me and knock me down. Not those ones that we expect. He sat up. So what? They all sit up eventually. It's when they chose not to sit but some other position that you don't expect and that shows how much of a little person roots around in that little toddling body.
Yesterday, he was laying sitting on the couch with his pad of paper, making doodles for his Momma. At one glance to this sweet exchange between mother and son, the boy was doodling on the pad in his lap; in the next, he was laying prone across the cushions so as to have better access to his paper. Now, you could argue that this isn't really a big deal, but I think it is. When a child chooses to adjust from the familiar and the expected and to something else, that is momentous in its normalcy. It's taken for granted, the availability of options, and in these subtle ways they are defining themselves.
Maybe I project too much or let the writer in me run amok too much, but when I see him lean against a doorway, I see him years from now doing the same thing, that same easy stance, that same grace as he peels a thought apart in his head to share it with someone else, his mother while she cooks a meal for him on Christmas break, to me while I collect a bite before we head out to fish, to his friends that he'll have for years and who might never understand where he's at most of the time. I see a toddler, a boy, a man in every part of him that hints of who he'll be.
That's why the little things smack me askew more often than not. Because, in those moments, when he is who he is now and who he'll be years from now, I'm not typically ready for that level of transcendental migration. The here and now is enough most days, and the eventuality of life, of his getting older, of his growing older in that very moment, is more than I can handle. I want to know both at once and forever, the boy he is now, the man he'll be then, and all the people in between.
And, it is in those moments that I realize that that can never be, at least, not all at once. So, I take it in. Enjoy that moment, and the next, and the next. I'd suggest we all do the same.
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Monday, January 7, 2008
Moments Like These
So, it was about 11 o'clock, and the Momma had gone to bed. Since me and the boy had taken a nap late this afternoon after seeing our friends' new baby, we were still pretty much awake.
Now, this isn't to say that we didn't try putting him to bed earlier tonight. His Momma had tried when I was at the store getting a few needed groceries, and we both tried when she decided to go to bed. On the last try, Cole made his eat/drink signal (a hand to the mouth with a snacking noise), so Momma went to bed and the boy and I went to the kitchen.
As is our usual practice, we assembled what he wanted, which goes like this for waffles (the staple food for the boy because it incorporates so many of his favorite things: toaster, toaster, toaster):
(Yes, I'm horrible and at 11 o'clock, use words like hell, etc. to express by undying affection for the boy and his paternally inherited stubbornness.)
(Still half-noodling.)
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